simple answer to a difficult question

we had talked about how we would respond when our kids realized we were gay, though it's never come up in the way we expected. we always told our kids the same thing we told curious kids from preschool who would ask "why did our kids have 2 daddies?" or "where was their mommy?" ...we found that kids were naturally curious and only required the simplest of answers... there are lots of different kinds of families, some have a mommy and daddy, others have 2 daddies or 2 mommies, others might have only a mommy or only a daddy, other kids are raised by an aunt and uncle, or their grandparents. this answer worked for all situations. i donated several books on different types of families to the kid's preschool. the teachers would read them at circle time and answer any questions. i never realized that i and my family would be a spokesfamily for gay and lesbian families, but if not us, then who?
the twins were in full time daycare this summer for 5 weeks with kids from kindergarten through eight grade. one of the teachers told me that some of the other kids had begun to notice that our family had 2 dads and were asking about it. she wanted to know what our response was. i explained to her about the situation i encountered in preschool. she asked if we had thought about how we would deal with other situations as the kids got older, expressing that other kids can be mean. i didn't have an answer for her or my family. i grew up with kids making fun of me, as lots of kids do. how do i prepare my kids for potential hatred and ignorance of other kids? is it through honesty? confrontation? ambivalence? my son is very sensitive and emotional, he still cries when he can't get his jacket on. how do we teach him? i told the daycare teacher that we'd cross that bridge when we came to it. my hope is that we can deal with it as a family, open and honest. can they still hate us for that?