waiting

once the county had recieved our home study we were contacted by phone to answer some additional questions. we were also given the opportunity to learn more about the twins. we were told there were several families being considered and that the commitee meets once a week to review all potential placements and decides which will be a best fit. these children had been in foster care for one year at this point, which included 6 placements (some were emergency placements of one or two weeks pending a longer term placement) and two other placements hadn't worked out so the county wanted to be sure that this placement would lead to adoption. the twins had developmental delays and were in a school for children with learning disabilities for 4 1/2 hours each day. they had been attending the school for 9 months. we were told they had a half-brother, 13, and half-sister, 14, both in permanent foster care since they were about 6, and a brother who was 5. this brother had been adopted by a gay male couple. the twins were first placed with this family for 5 months. they were placed with a black family for about 2-3 month after that. we weren't told yet why those placements didn't work out. we were told that the boy did't talk, it was unsure if he was mute or deaf, he was scheduled for a hearing test. both children had many ear infections as babies. there was possible drug and alcohol use during pregnancy but both children tested negative for drug and alcohol exposure at birth. they were removed from the mother at 21 months due to severe neglect. the mother's mental health was questionable and schizophrenia and bipolar disorder were heritary in her family. the girl was almost potty trained and the boy wasn't yet. they weighed about 28 pounds and each slept in a crib. since we are both white we were asked about african american role models for the children. we both wanted to include african american role models in our children's lives. when we hadn't heard from the children's social worker after the first week i was persistant in finding out when the decision would be made. she valued my persistance and informed me that the meeting had been delayed. patience once again!